Briggsy Posted June 30, 2006 Report Share Posted June 30, 2006 Has anyone suffered severe depression in the past and been on any medication to help? AT the moment, i'm feeling really s**t, and have been for a while. I also had it at the start of the year, but perked up a hell of a lot for 6 weeks or so. I suffered with depression for a lot of last year too, and at various other stages over the last 5 years or so. There's loads of reason why I feel like it, and things aren't going to improve overnight, so I think I need a bit of help. Some of the side effects of anti-depressants are "feeling suicidal and psychotic" though - and I don't wanna take those risks. If you had it, how did you deal with it. At the moment, its really dragging me down, making me feel s***, emotional (I feel like I could just cry for no real reason), angry (sometimes I just feel like punching something for no reason), and generally, very snappy with people. Deep down, i'm quite a laid back and friendly person - so I really need something to sort me out. I don't want to feel snappy and miserable - its sooo not me Any suggestions guys? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thirddrive Posted June 30, 2006 Report Share Posted June 30, 2006 You say you also suffered with it at the start of the year, if it is an occurance in the Winter then perhaps it was SAD - Seasonal Affective Disorder related. But now you still feel like it...I guess go see a doctor or otherwise to talk things over to see what may be causing you to feel like this. A couple of my friends have suffered in the past and talking can help, you may not have to worry about medication, which is off putting for some. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeAnO Posted June 30, 2006 Report Share Posted June 30, 2006 Alright mate, im so sorry to hear your feeling like this. I dont suffer from it myself but my dad sometimes gets it really bad from the pressures of his work and life. He was also prescribbed tablets which at first made him feel even worse. He couldnt sleep and went through alot of mood changes dramatically. You may fine that after a period of you taking the tablets your body will accept them alot better and will help you. Until then you need to keep on top of your worries and try and relax alot more. Its best if you have someone to tell all your problems to as that does help alot with depression. Hope you feel better soon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dormouse Posted June 30, 2006 Report Share Posted June 30, 2006 Went through a lot of this in the last 9 months or so.... You find out who your true friends are in times like these - and they always help you through it. That's what matters. And, believe me, it works. Chin up! Nothing is impossible, and everything can be overcome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Briggsy Posted June 30, 2006 Author Report Share Posted June 30, 2006 Its definately not SAD as it happens at various times of the year. At the moment though, its the worst its ever been and i'm quite worried because little things wind me up tht wouldn't normally get to me and I know the the day is soon going to arrived where I blow my top and go ballistic at someone (more than likely my boss). Its a build up of many things really. I feel trapped because i'm 27, stuck in a job that I absolutely detest, and i'm still living with my parents - basically, because I was a pratt when I was younger and ran up a £27,000 debt (which i'm still paying back now - £16,500 left to go!). I can't afford to move out because my loan payments are so high, and I can't afford to take a pay cut to go elsewhere (I get good money at my job that I wouldn't get elsewhere for doing the same job). My dad has been very ill over the last two years with heart problems due to diabetes complications. The last two Christmas's have been spent watching my dad fight for his life in hospital (thankfully, at the moment, he's the best he's been for 2 years). I hardly see any of my mates now. We always used to do things together, but most of them now have moved to other cities, settled down in serious relationships and/or had kids. I only see one on a fairly regular basis - and thats at weekends if i'm lucky. And i've really fallen for a girl that i've got to know very well over the last 3 or 4 months. I thought she felt the same about me, but she's pretty much hinted that she doesn't want anything to happen because she's my ex's best mate. I've not actually told her how I feel face to face, but i've sent her three texts over the last couple of months telling her how I feel, but she's not even mentioned anything about it. I haven't got the balls to tell her exactly how I feel to her face because I don't want to lose her as a mate completely. I've never really been a confident person in anything that I do (even in things that I love such as my DJ'ing), i've no confidence in my ability, and i've no confidence in my looks either. Basically, all of that is chipping away at me and its really getting me down. Even as i'm typing this now, I feel so angry for no real reason, and i'm close to tears - yet nothing has happened tonight to make me feel like this. Its weird and its freaking me out big time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bjorn Posted July 1, 2006 Report Share Posted July 1, 2006 OK mate, u kinda know my views on this already... I would say steer clear of medication, i have a mate who was on anti-depressants and it f***ed him up a bit i think - i have to 100% agree with christian & dormouse - talking is the best method, let it all out and u'll feel much better - i bet u already feel slightly better for discussing it on here!! What i would suggest is doing something to take your mind of current situation, sounds like your stuck in what your doing so theres not a lot u can do for a couple of years until your out of that debt. Find something u really enjoy and exploit it - for example your dj'ing - like u were saying to me the other day - get some demo's done and sent out and get talking to people in your area. Make the contacts and start loking at playing out, u will love it i guarentee and ive not one single coubt u are an awesome dj (ure deffo better than me). Whenever i feel a bit crap about summat i just think 'sweet ive got this gig coming soon, f*** everything else, im looking forward to that' Basically u need things to look forward too in life that how i see it - and thats coming from me who has no job yet for next year and aint sure what i might be doing, haha! Oh and as for the women - plenty more fish i n the sea matey :wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dewi Posted July 1, 2006 Report Share Posted July 1, 2006 Imo, don't take the pills, a close friend was on them and just messed with his mind, if you need time to just chill and forget about your problems may I suggest green :?: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bjorn Posted July 1, 2006 Report Share Posted July 1, 2006 hahaha, dewi thats not a constructive idea!!! HAHAHAHA Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheSaint Posted July 1, 2006 Report Share Posted July 1, 2006 i know hindsight is a wonderful thing and used in these situations doesnt always mean positive movements but i was in a similar situation a few years back. I too was in a s*** job. I too was madly in love with a girl (but that was never reciprocated). I too had a lot of debt (10k). I too was angry and cried and random moments. I too lived at home. But a couple of years on i got rid of the girl, sorted out my finances, changed my job, moved out of home. It didnt all happen overnight and i dont really know how all of it happened but im here now sitting in my new home after just beinging out in Brighton last night - doing drugs - and i feel great. A couple of years i would've hated this moment. All im trying to say is that things will work out in the end. To what degree i don't know but things will improve. My ex-girlfriend used to take anti-depressants before she met me and she was ok taking them - no side effects or anything - its your choice to take them or not. My personal opinion is don't bother. Get the hormones running round your body in the natural way by feeling happy about certain situations. Start with small things like a song which you hear on the radio or in a club. Just smile at it and look at the positive side of things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bjorn Posted July 1, 2006 Report Share Posted July 1, 2006 Well said saint, good to hear u sorted things out mate 8-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JasonB Posted July 1, 2006 Report Share Posted July 1, 2006 I've never really been a confident person in anything that I do (even in things that I love such as my DJ'ing), i've no confidence in my ability, and i've no confidence in my looks either. Youre not the only one guv. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thirddrive Posted July 1, 2006 Report Share Posted July 1, 2006 Youre not the only one guv. I think that's a very telling statement, no matter how bad things may be you are not alone! Always someone there for support etc who may have had previous experience of the situation Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neuro Posted July 1, 2006 Report Share Posted July 1, 2006 There's always a reason for feeling how you are, and you gotta look at which pillar or pillars are not right - whether it be family, girlfriend, £££, home, and tackling them one at a time so they're sound. I'm fortunate enough to be at the time of my life where I couldn't be happier; I've a clean slate coming out here to Spain, with no Uni exams to take this year and a shedload of new foriegn friends to make. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chrissie Brown Posted July 1, 2006 Report Share Posted July 1, 2006 No you're not the only oneI have also suffered with depression so l know how you feel. Sometimes medication works but it all depends on what type of depression you have. Often it is caused by a lack of a certain chemical (can't remember the name of the chemical) and once this is sorted out the depression can disappear. What helped me was listening to music and dancing and not spending too much time on my own. Try and be with people who are optimistic and cheerful. Talking about your problems also helps, a problem shared is a problem halved and remember nothing ever stays the same forever. You're been through a really bad time being in debt, having to move back with your parents etc but at least you have a roof over your head and are with loved ones and paying off the debt. You're getting there. :thumbsup: It's not easy but keep smiling which really helps too. Laugh and the world laughs with you , cry and you cry alone. (something like that) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Briggsy Posted July 1, 2006 Author Report Share Posted July 1, 2006 I wish I was in a situation to move abroad. Its something i've thought about very seriously over the last 12 months or so. If I could get a job that doesn't need any qualifications (ie, bar work), with s*** money, but enough to cover my loan each month and somewhere to stay. I'd leave this place tomorrow if I had the chance. Other than my family (who are only a flight away now and again), there's f**k all the keep me here. My mates are a waste of time, and to be honest, i've had it up to my neck with them. My job seriously bugs the f**k out of me, and i'm just very brassed off with the whole load of b*****ks thats driving me mad here. If someone told me there was a job going in tenerife tomorrow, and it covered my loan payments and somewhere to live, i'd be off. I'm seriously f****d off here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wilson Posted July 1, 2006 Report Share Posted July 1, 2006 Don't go to medication, try get counselling. Worked for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aza Posted July 2, 2006 Report Share Posted July 2, 2006 Steer clear of green, it will only make you feel worse and you contemplate things more. To try cut things short, deffo seek councilling, talking with friends and family allows you to get it out of your system etc... I think we all get tims where we feel in ruts, thats just humans, we like to set things into routines etc, when we do something new we moan about it e.g new shift patterns, new uni patterns and coursework overload, but we learn to cope with it eventually and actually master it thus making things easier, thats why we get bored. Perhaps start a new hobby? Draw, read - make mix demos If possible, try use the good things you got going for you to use as a foundation of happy mentality, sounds like you got a fairly decent income and a family who are happy to have you living with them. One thing I like to do is go for walks, if you can try going to a national park or forest, somewhere nice and scenic to clear your thoughts and let go of the stress's and strains... My results are apparently coming in the post this forthcoming week, its a tense moment for me and I have stressed of recent through revision and now seeing where it got me. This year is make or break for me to get into year three of my course and also contributes to my grade. When the envelope arrives Im going to take it and go for a nice stroll and set a harmony for when I upon it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Craig Posted July 2, 2006 Report Share Posted July 2, 2006 briggsy i too have the same probs ie debt, still at home etc... work f/t in hmv and pays not gr8. best thing to do matey is take each day as it comes and look fwd to things that can happen, ie we shd all meet up for global gathering and creamfields or just the latter (prob cant afford GG!) also think of good new tunes that u wanna obtain, kinda gives u a buzz. but i'd like to meet most on this board i know a few already and it be a good laugh and what better to meet than a big event like creamfields 2006??!! keep smilin buddy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Briggsy Posted July 2, 2006 Author Report Share Posted July 2, 2006 I'm trying to keep my chin up and smile - i'm just finding it difficult. It feels as though i'm trapped during work time because I hate a job that I can't leave, and outside of work hours, it feels like i'm being left behind. A few years ago, me and a my mates would go out in big groups, sometimes as many as 20, sometimes as small as 2/3/4 people. Now, I rarely see any of my mates because they've all moved away, settled down with girlfriends/wives, got kids, etc. In all honesty, there's only one mate that I see regularly now - the rest have moved on. Thankfully, he's also the only mate I can trust when I tell him things. He won't tell anyone, whereas the rest of my mates can be backstabbers and gossipers. I'm not exagerating when I say that out of my whole wage packet each month, by the time i've paid my loan and bills (car insurance, petrol, etc), I have £150 left to myself to spend each month. Its my own fault I now, but its really getting me down. My parents don't even know - i've managed to hide my debt from them for the last 5 years! If they knew, they'd have a fit! Normally, my DJ'ing would take my mind off things as i'd mix all the time and enjoy the music - but my ears have been really bad over the last 3 months or so, so I cna only mix on days where my ears are fine otherwise they hurt like mad afterwards. Still, tomorrow is another day (shame its a work day though).... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bjorn Posted July 3, 2006 Report Share Posted July 3, 2006 oi craig, u aint mssin GG this year u pansy! Kepp it up briggsy, as craig said - take one day at a time and look forward to things!! It could always be a lot worse dude! :wink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aza Posted July 3, 2006 Report Share Posted July 3, 2006 Briggsy fella, I know its easier said than done, but dont hide your debt from the people who are important to you and moreover, should know about your situation. I watched Panorana last night on BBC1 and it was great to learn about banking and scams. There were two cases where two men took their own lifes because of the accumlated debts they acquired and were ashamed to let their wifes know. Their are confidential lines out there & more help than you know is available to you to repay debts. perhaps if you sort that out things will start to look brighter. I know money is a big burden in our lives, Myself being a student is very hard to run the things in life we most want - telephone, car insurnce, petrol, social money, music and entertainments (BILLS!). But maybe when you sort your money situation out things will become to look brighter and you will see things from a different perspective. here is a link that may help you mate http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/programmes/pano...ama/5129514.stm Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simcut Posted July 12, 2006 Report Share Posted July 12, 2006 We've all been there dude, hope your feeling better now :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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