Number2Fan Posted May 17, 2009 Report Share Posted May 17, 2009 I am depressed, I cannot see any light at the end of the tunnel, I can't crack a smile to even the happiest things yet sad things I hear of break my heart. I can see no point in getting up every day just to struggle through trying to give my children a happy healthy life, just as things start to look up life comes and kicks you in the teeth again and knocks you back into your place. As if to say " oi you have no right to enjoy yourself, get back in the slippery s*** filled gutter you belong in, and try clawing your way out again!! You can fight the feeling but it drains the fight out of you in the end, there's only so much looking on the bright side and dreaming one person can take. Taking the smallest event and being glad of at least that, because even that goes wrong if I'm honest!! Soldiering on!! What's the point?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Briggsy Posted May 17, 2009 Report Share Posted May 17, 2009 What's the point?? because things get better! Yeah, i've had patches in the past, and no doubt will in the future. Some days/weeks/months seem crap, and then all of a sudden, things seem much better again. You'll be fine - chin up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonross46 Posted May 17, 2009 Report Share Posted May 17, 2009 I've been feeling depressed tonight, I nearly put it in a Facebook status but I've done enough on that site for today. You will be alright my sweet, the dark clouds will soon reveal glorious sunshine!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Number2Fan Posted May 17, 2009 Author Report Share Posted May 17, 2009 No they wont. They just pretend they might, and then the rain gets ya from a different angle!! Trouble is a couple of nice things did happen today, but they haven't cheered me up, because I know it's just gonna bite me in the arse as soon as I feel good about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonross46 Posted May 17, 2009 Report Share Posted May 17, 2009 I always have the belief that when something bad happens, I must have done something to deserve it. When my car caught fire when I was driving home, I wondered why it had happened because the day I had before it happening was really good. I'm a sort of Karma person really. That's not to say you must have done something bad to deserve the depression, don't get me wrong. It's my experience of it all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian_k Posted May 17, 2009 Report Share Posted May 17, 2009 no disrepect to anyone or anything, but i really dont get this thread. surely if people are depressed the idea is to make them happy, not more depressed am i missing something lol??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonross46 Posted May 17, 2009 Report Share Posted May 17, 2009 In a way it's just good to talk about it, rather than sit thinking about it in your head. Thinking is dangerous! Thats what a friend always said to me, and she was right Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Briggsy Posted May 17, 2009 Report Share Posted May 17, 2009 surely if people are depressed the idea is to make them happy, not more depressed If someone is depressed, saying loads of nice things doesn't really help - in fact, it can often make things worse. Often, just talking about it and getting things off your chest can help Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonross46 Posted May 17, 2009 Report Share Posted May 17, 2009 I find when I am depressed, I sit there wanting to be sad. It's only when I go to sleep and wake up that I feel happy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chrissie Brown Posted May 17, 2009 Report Share Posted May 17, 2009 because things get better! Yeah, i've had patches in the past, and no doubt will in the future. Some days/weeks/months seem crap, and then all of a sudden, things seem much better again.You'll be fine - chin up Have to agree with Briggsy. I've gone through some really bad patches when l thought l would never be happy again. For the past 3 years my life has been so good that l've managed to more or less block out the bad times. Listening to music, mainly the stuff Jules plays, has been my saviour and having a good dance. I rarely drink coz that can make me depressed. Also, nothing stays the same forever so hopefully things will soon get better for you too :kiss: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonman Posted May 17, 2009 Report Share Posted May 17, 2009 money - or lack of it - makes me depressed! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Briggsy Posted May 18, 2009 Report Share Posted May 18, 2009 money - or lack of it - makes me depressed! I think that'd cure most people's problems to be honest. If I won the lottery tomorrow, it'd start a new life for me - i'd move abroad, and being careful, I could buy most things i'd want in life without having to worry about how much i'm spending. No depression at all! All the things that cause my depression are, in one way or another, caused by things relating to money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Number2Fan Posted May 18, 2009 Author Report Share Posted May 18, 2009 Definitely lack of money has sparked this, but I am talking total lack of, not even enough for the basics. It's certainly meant that I am stuck in a rut, with nothing to look forward to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emy Posted May 18, 2009 Report Share Posted May 18, 2009 I hope you feel better soon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kml Posted May 18, 2009 Report Share Posted May 18, 2009 Snap out of it you big drama queen! Get up and get moving. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kml Posted May 18, 2009 Report Share Posted May 18, 2009 I think that'd cure most people's problems to be honest.If I won the lottery tomorrow, it'd start a new life for me - i'd move abroad, and being careful, I could buy most things i'd want in life without having to worry about how much i'm spending. No depression at all! All the things that cause my depression are, in one way or another, caused by things relating to money. Money is so overrated and it would only make you feel happier for a short period of time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Briggsy Posted May 18, 2009 Report Share Posted May 18, 2009 Money is so overrated and it would only make you feel happier for a short period of time. No it wouldn't! It means I could quite my crappy job, pay off my debts that i've had since the battle of hastings ended, and start afresh doing something I want to do. Believe it or not, if I came into £25,000 tomorrow, it would change my life a lot! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tremor Posted May 18, 2009 Report Share Posted May 18, 2009 I can certainly see how money can be a big issue at the moment for most people and it's not nice just barely getting by. On the other hand though I dont think winning the lottery - as in winning a million or so would solve all of any person's unhappiness. One of my old school friends now sells properties in one of the richest areas of London and makes around 5 times my salary. He loves to show off his expensive clothes, shoes, watches, car whatever is the latest thing he's bought. This has just made me think he's a complete idiot but truth is he's not happy at all and it's all just a front. He's actually really depressed himself as he's ended up quite isolated.. not many friends and too much money to know what to do with which often ends up with people spending it on drugs etc. I know not all people will end up this way just because they have money but for me the key is having enough to pay the bills with a bit spare so I can buy a round of drinks once a week or something. I'm pretty easy going really so I tend not to get down about money and stuff - but then I've also been sensible and dont have credit cards or loans to pay off so I guess I've never known that stress. Anyway I hope things get better for you soon Number 2... they will do just give it some more time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Briggsy Posted May 18, 2009 Report Share Posted May 18, 2009 Through being silly when I was 18, I got myself into thousands of debt with loans and credit cards - to the point where I was basically blackmailed by the credit reference agency (those that give you a credit scoring based on credit history). To cut a long story short, if I sacrificed my mobile phone contract, credit cards, store cards - and basically anything else that I could run a debt up on until my credit score went higher, they were prepared to let me have a loan for £7,000 over what they'd normally let someone have that doesn't own property in order to bail me out of my debts - if they hadn't, i'd have been forced into bankrupty. Thankfully, since then, i've learnt my lesson and managed to slash £20,000 off my debts - but i've still got a lot more to go. I'm trapped in my job because I can't afford to take the risk of moving on with things how they are at the moment - if I lose my job, I can't clear my debts, and i'll be heading down the bankrupty route again. Coming into a lump of money tomorrow would definately change my life - the debts would be clear, meaning I could also get a new job that I enjoy (i'd even take a pay cut to do it if it got me out of my hellhole of a job). If I got a new job, it would also mean I could get a place of my own - or better still, do what i've always wanted to do and move abroad. I guess everyone is different - a lump sum of money now would certainly change my future forever, and allow me to move on. At the moment i'm trapped, and it does get me down. I've changed so much as a person over the last few years - i'm snappy, argumentative and grumpy at times. before debt problems, and a psycho ex which also changed me as a person, I was really easy-going, and so laid back, I was almost horizontal! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simonross46 Posted May 18, 2009 Report Share Posted May 18, 2009 I used to be stupidly tight with my money as a child. If I saw something I would refuse to buy it no matter how much I wanted it because since the age of 7 I was saving for my car (which I've just got). As soon as I got a job and I started getting 3 digit figures in my bank each month, I would buy anything I saw that I wanted. The other day I saw a CD in Tesco, never heard of it but it looked interesting and I bought it there and then. I also buy lots of DVD's because they are cheap, but then the prices all add up. Now I am saving for CDJ's (as some people know) so I am doing my best to get into my extremely tight ways again. It's tricky, I've already bought a book, and lots of petrol!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Briggsy Posted May 18, 2009 Report Share Posted May 18, 2009 My problem years ago was that if I wanted something, i'd buy it. If I saw a top for £100 and I only had £110 in the bank, then i'd do it - and then live off my credit card for the month. At 18 though, you don't really care - until 12 years on and you're still paying it off like I am now. Whe I look back at home much i've spent, and what i've got to show for it now, its pretty scary. All I own is my DJ equipment and my car - the rest has been blown. I could have paid for a third of a house by now! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Number2Fan Posted May 18, 2009 Author Report Share Posted May 18, 2009 I don't have a credit card, I am now paying for Rent, Council tax, Food for 5, car insurance and petrol (only for getting to and from work) water and sewage, gas, electric, nursery funds (subsidised) all on less than 300 per week, and paying back some money to my in-laws for when they paid for my car to be repaired a year ago(5 quid per week) now that's all well and good I realise many people have it much worse as many also have it better, but it does make staying positive about things very very hard. I take pleasure in obscure small things like how my flowers are growing in my s***ty garden as I watch my neighbours buy a barbecue, and do fencing and get outdoor furniture, and that makes it all the more depressing when I stick my head out to see my flowers have died, FOR NO REASON??? Karma I would love to believe in but I know I am not THAT BAD a person. It's tempting to get a credit card and have a holiday for us all, or decorate the girls bedroom as they need a new bunk bed, but as jobs aren't very secure atm I know that would be stupid, so all i can do is carry on, still needing the same stuff and still never quite getting it, and that is NEEDS I'm talking about, not things I just would like, like clubbing, or a haircut, or to take the kids to the cinema during half term next week. That would be a luxury atm. So although you say money wouldn't solve all our problems, it would certainly f***ing help. Maybe Shmitty will win that years supply of cat food, that'd help too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quadrant Posted May 18, 2009 Report Share Posted May 18, 2009 No need to ever be depressed. My advice would be: 1) Try online gambling (and always chase your losses... eventually you will win!) 2) Avoid socialising. Happy days! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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